Kids know how to test their parents’ patience, and no matter how much you try your hardest to be calm while you lock your jaw tightly to refrain from shouting at them, you can’t help but feel frustrated when they go crazy and controlling them seems impossible. You have been warned that parenting will never be easy. We are only human and we also lose our temper once in a while. However, this is not an excuse to constantly yell at your children. We should know that if you scream at them all the time, this can be doing a permanent harm to our children.
A study that was published by The Journal of Child Development, it says that regularly yelling at your children can have the same effects as hitting them. Kids who are being yelled at regularly have higher rates of depression and anxiety. This can cause them to have lower self-esteem and other behavioral problems.
According to Positive Outlooks, screaming at your children is teaching them that yelling at others or being yelled at when they get older is an acceptable behavior. This is just some of the psychological impacts that can affect a child. The power that a parent holds over their children is absolute. To them, their parents or guardians are twice as their size and they provide things that they need to live like food, shelter, and love.
When these people frighten them, this can rock their sense of security and it can be really frightening for a child. Yelling has the ability to change a child’s brain works. This can create neural pathways that will tell a child that they are in danger which they should naturally react in a fight, flight, or freeze mode. Their response to these situations will be ingrained in their personality.
When it comes to discipline, yelling is proven to be ineffective. You might have seen some children who tend to cover their ears when their folks are shouting at them. This simply means that the kid won’t listen to you. Yelling may serve as a release for parents who are too weak or too tired to deal with the rollercoaster of emotions in a healthy manner. Dr. Alan Kazdin of Psychology and Child Psychiatry at Yale once told New York Times that if you want to show your child that you are mad, then yelling might be a way to show it. However, when you want to change something in a child, or if you are trying to develop a positive habit, yelling is not the way to properly do that.
Engaging your child in a calm conversation is the best way to discipline these children. Why don’t you try to respond with a sense of humor while maintaining authority? This can easily connect to them and get your point across. It is important that children understand what they have done wrong. Use positive and negative reinforcement for effective discipline. If say they did something that they’re supposed to do, praise them. They should have a better understanding of the consequences of their actions.
Kids are smarter than what we expect of them. Always remember that their minds are like sponges. Whatever they see that their folks are doing, they will mimic it. These bad habits can become their own as they get older and we don’t want that to happen.