Zeke is the kind of son every mother wishes for.
There is definitely no shame in working hard so as to be able to support your family in the way that you should, but one mother was moved to tears when she realized that the hands of her high school son showed just how hard he works.
Well, Cassandra Lane has five children and when you put the cost of raising a very large family into consideration, you’ll agree that the financial situation can be a tad challenging. Every member of the family makes sacrifices… including her son Zeke, who works a job as a means of helping out.
However, Cassandra was also very worried when she too Zee out for his high school senor photo session. She noticed the dirt in his fingernails, and his hands also showed that he wasn’t just sitting at home and playing video games.
She wrote about that moment on the Facebook page of Love What Matters, “Earlier this week we went to get Zeke’s senior yearbook pictures. On the way, I noticed his hands. Working hands. Hands that look familiarly like my dad’s work-stained hands and like Brandon’s in the early years of our marriage.”
She also said, “I told him not to worry about it because they were doing headshots. I was wrong.”
In the post, she continued to explain, “As we sat in line, I notice kids in letterman jackets with their class rings. And I notice Zeke’s stained hands. I began to tear up. Have I given him everything a parent should give to their child as he has grown up? He works out in the heat, 30-40 hours a week during the summer. He didn’t want a class ring or a letterman jacket. He didn’t get a new car. The mommy comparison game tells me I didn’t show him how much I love him with things. I left there feeling bad about myself and how we have raised our son.”
However, there really wasn’t any need for the worried mother to have been concerned at all, as Zeke was really happy for everything that she was able to provide and unlike his classmates, he had no need for material.
Cassandra added, “I’ve been reflecting the last few days and crying a lot, honestly. I apologized to Zeke and he laughed at me. He said, ‘Why are you sorry? Because you’ve taught me to work hard for things I want? Because I know the value of a dollar? Because I’m not going to think that I deserve to have everything I want?’”
As a matter of fact, although she hadn’t showered him with “things,” she had taught him a lot of lessons that he was thankful for.
She added, “And my sister reminded me that the best things in life aren’t things, but relationships, and any shortfalls in my parenting are covered by God’s grace. So, mamas, if you’re struggling with the parenting comparison game, just know that God gave you the babies you have because he wanted you, YOU, to be their mama. Not someone else.”
As an ending to her post, Cassandra wrote, “I am beyond proud of Zeke, who has taken his brother shopping for a canoe today, using his money that he earned in a vehicle that he fixed with his own hands and gas he paid for by himself. I’m not ready for Zeke to grow up, but I think he’s well on his way.”