Losing a spouse is one of the hardest things anyone can face, but it is a reality those with spouses serving the country in the military have to face on a regular basis. They have to wait at home while the spouse goes off on an assignment to one foreign country or the other. Some are lucky enough to return home without any serious harm, others Like Lieutenant Todd Weaver are not so lucky. He was on his second tour in Afghanistan when an IED claimed his life.
The 26-year-old was a loving wife and father. Emma his wife was devastated by the news. Now he had to take care of their beautiful baby girl Kiley on her own. It was a difficult time for the young mother. Who tried all she could to stay strong for her baby.
Just two days after Todd was laid to rest, Emma was riffling through some of his things when she came across something so touching but unexpected. She needed something to help her cope with the grief. Something prompted her to take a look at todd’s laptop and there she found two Letters one addressed to her and the other for Kiley.
It was an emotional letter from her husband which read:
Well if you are reading this, I guess I did not make it home and therefore, I was not able to remind you again of how much I love you. I love you so much, Baby, and I will always love you. Although I may not be here right now, take comfort in the fact that I am watching over you right now.
I am not gone and I will always be with you in spirit. I know this time must be hard for you but I also know how strong you are. Never forget that God knew what was best for us before we were even born. Take comfort in that. This happened for a reason. Although you may not believe it now, you will one day.
I want you to know just how important you are to me. I could not ask for a more caring, beautiful and loving wife. The memories that we have shared over the last few years have been the best of my life. Although it may seem like my life was cut short, I lived a life that most can only dream of. I married the perfect woman. I have a beautiful daughter that amazed me every day.
I even had two great dogs – at least most of the time. I couldn’t ask for anything more. If you feel sad, just think back to the memories that we shared. Look at our daughter and how beautiful she is.
Be strong for her. Remind her about her Daddy and tell her that I loved her more than anything else in the world. Her birth was the best day of my life and she was the best thing that ever happened to me. Her smile and laughter represent all that is good and beautiful in this world.
Tell her that Daddy is in Heaven now and will watch over her and protect her every minute of every day. I love you, Emma. But never be afraid to do what you need to do to be happy. It is so important that you continue to find happiness in your life. Although you may think this is impossible right now, have faith.
Much better times are coming. You and Kiley have a wonderful life ahead of you and I am so happy to have shared some of it with you.
I love you.
Your loving Husband,
By the time Emma finished with the first letters rivers of tears were flowing down her face. She picked up the second letter meant for Kiley, took a deep breath and took a look at it too.
“Dear Kiley, My Sweetie:
Although you may not remember me, I want you to know how very much your Daddy loves you. I left for Afghanistan when you were 9 months old. Leaving you was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. You are so very special to me sweetie – you are truly a gift from God. The best day of my life was the day you were born. Every time I saw you smile my heart would just melt.
You were my sweetie – my life was not complete until you were born. I am so sorry I will not be able to see you grow up. But remember, your Daddy is not gone. I am in Heaven now smiling down on you every day.
You are so very lucky to have such a wonderful Mom to take care of you. Make sure you are good for her and help her out whenever you can. Always remember to say your prayers at night and be thankful for all your many blessings. Never forget how important and special you are to so many people.
We love you so very much. When you get older and start school, do your best and try to learn as much as you can about the world you live in. Always be nice and caring to others and you will discover that the world will be nice to you.
But when things aren’t going your way, never forget that God knows what is best for you and everything will work out in the end. You have such a bright and beautiful future ahead of you. Have fun. Enjoy it. And remember, your Daddy will always be proud of you and will always love you. You are and will always be my sweetie.
With very much love,
One can almost imagine how hard, writing these notes would have been for Todd. It’s never easy to address the frailness of our own lives. But Todd felt this was something he had to do before going on a such a perilous trip. Knowing he might not return, leaving something to help his family cope with the loss and grief was the best he could have done for them. Even though it would be Painful for Emma and Kiley, knowing that loved them so much will be a soothing relive whenever they remembered him.
Emma was finally able to find the closure she needed and was able to find love again. just like Todd advised the two are living a happy life in their new family and Kiley even as a baby sister. But there is no doubt that the memories of the man who loved them so much would forever linger in their hearts.