Parents should never allow their child to hurt other people, physically or emotionally. This is why we believe that discipline starts at home.
A father learned that his daughter bullied another girl at school after she lost her hair because of chemotherapy cancer treatments. This dad knew that he had to teach his daughter a lesson. So he decided to deal with it on his own. He made her shave her head as punishment.
This father explained later that his 16-year-old daughter had been having issues with this girl at school because of a boy. The girl had been wearing a wig after she lost her hair due to her chemotherapy treatments. Both girls somehow got into an argument and while they were fighting, his daughter pulled off the wig. Instead of feeling sorry for the other girl, his daughter started to make fun of her.
The dad said, “Not how I’ve raised my daughter to treat people and it truly disgusted me to hear how she acted…”
After knowing what she did, the dad gave his daughter a choice as punishment. She can give up her gadgets and throw them away, or she can shave her head bald. Like what any other teenager would probably do, his daughter was not willing to give up her electronics. She would rather have her head shaved off!
To make it even worse, dad did not allow her to wear a wig to school. So she did not have a choice but to show off her bald head until it will slowly grow back. Some people think that what he did was too much. But what he just wanted to is for her daughter to learn a lesson of empathy and compassion from this punishment. What he did was not to humiliate her, but for her to learn something out of this experience.
Unfortunately, it seems like the daughter did not feel guilty at all. The dad shared that his daughter showed no remorse. In fact, she even tried to defend herself for what she did by saying that the other girl deserved it. He said, “I don’t care what she said, that behavior is inexcusable.”
This punishment sparked a heated debate online.
A user wrote, “There’s a term for what you did. It’s called child abuse. Taking away her electronics would have been an appropriate punishment. Grounding her would have been an appropriate punishment. Disrespecting her right to bodily autonomy and humiliating her is not an appropriate punishment. She’s unlikely to learn from it and if anything it risks perpetuating a cycle of bullying.”
Still, others applauded the dad for what he did saying that this form of punishment was just appropriate to teach the child a lesson. A user wrote, “This is an appropriate punishment for that behavior that will hopefully result in one child being compassionate and thinking empathetically before they start bullying people.”
Despite the fact that the father had good intentions for what he did, the matter got worse because he and his daughter’s mother are divorced. The fact that the father did not consult his ex-wife about his decision outraged her. Her point of the argument is that their daughter will now be the object of bullying.